Getting along with an ex is tough, but when there are children involved it is imperative that you get along for them. I am not talking about having a wonderful relationship. I am talking about having a "working" relationship.
At parentingclassonline.net we teach the importance of getting along with your ex spouse or we refer to them as your co-parent. They are not a spouse to you any longer, but they are now a co-parent to your children.
A couple of DO's:
DO recognize when things are starting to heat up between you and your co-parent. When you get the vibe that things are getting off track immediately get away from the situation.
DO allow your children to see and experience their other parent. There is nothing worse than a child loving and missing a parent and the other not allowing them to be part of their lives.
DO communicate the important issues regarding your children, but keep it brief and on target. The only thing you have in common now are your children so that should be your only conversation.
DO get help for yourself and your children if you need to.
DO make it a practice to be on time to pick kids up and return them.
These are just simple things you can do to help things go smoothly for your children. If you would like to learn more come to parentingclassonline.net where we have classes and an online free support group.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Parenting Class? Which class do I take?
I get this same question over and over. It is confusing to know what is expected of you in a parenting class especially when you are under stress from a divorce or separation. Some courts will call it a parenting class, others a family stabilization class and co-parenting class or divorce class. I have been doing this since 2002 and it is still confusing for me too.
The best place to start is by asking whoever is requiring you to take a parenting class what exactly do you need to take to fulfill your requirement. What is the exact terminology of your class? If you have an attorney, ask him or her to clarify. You can also call the court clerk to help you determine what you are required to take to fulfill your parenting class.
Parentingclassonline.net is designed to meet all of your parenting class needs. We start off with a 4 hour class and if you need more hours we will work with you to get you those hours. We work with you to get this certificate accepted.
Parentingclassonline.net has been doing online programs since 2002 and serving the courts with great success and acceptance. One thing the courts like about our programs is they are led by a licensed marriage and family therapist. The courts know that you work for your certificate in this program and that is respectable for the courts and for yourself to learn and grow through this process. Parentingclassonline.net is here to get you a certificate, but we also care about your learning experience.
ParentingClassOnline.net is a nationally accepted parenting, co-parenting and divorce class. We are automatically accepted by all courts throughout Florida. We are a class the courts have grown to know and trust. If you have any further questions please don't hesitate to email me directly at centerofsolutions@ymail.com.
The best place to start is by asking whoever is requiring you to take a parenting class what exactly do you need to take to fulfill your requirement. What is the exact terminology of your class? If you have an attorney, ask him or her to clarify. You can also call the court clerk to help you determine what you are required to take to fulfill your parenting class.
Parentingclassonline.net is designed to meet all of your parenting class needs. We start off with a 4 hour class and if you need more hours we will work with you to get you those hours. We work with you to get this certificate accepted.
Parentingclassonline.net has been doing online programs since 2002 and serving the courts with great success and acceptance. One thing the courts like about our programs is they are led by a licensed marriage and family therapist. The courts know that you work for your certificate in this program and that is respectable for the courts and for yourself to learn and grow through this process. Parentingclassonline.net is here to get you a certificate, but we also care about your learning experience.
ParentingClassOnline.net is a nationally accepted parenting, co-parenting and divorce class. We are automatically accepted by all courts throughout Florida. We are a class the courts have grown to know and trust. If you have any further questions please don't hesitate to email me directly at centerofsolutions@ymail.com.
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Positive Communication with Your Co-Parent
Even the thought of communicating with a co-parent may elicit a deep sigh. Many of you can’t imagine having a conversation with a co-parent without delving into nasty banter or button pushing. You may have tried to be rational and your co-parent is vested in letting you know everything you did wrong or how unhappy he or she is feeling both in the past and present. Being a co-parent with an uncoopertive ex-partner is tough.
It is hard to believe but many separating or divorced parents seem to relish their miscommunication with each other. The renewal of old angry feelings keeps the issue of who has power over whom alive and keeps that familiar connection going. Using negative strategies can make you feel strong and in a one-upmanship position over your co-parent. Sound familiar? If this sounds all too familiar at parentingclassonline.net we can help both partners find new and better ways of communicating. Improving communication with your co-parent is an investment in happy children.
Embrace the idea of good communication and keep these goals in mind when communicating with your co-parent:
1. Make clear arrangements regarding your kids.
2. Model good negotiating and problem solving for your kids.
3. Make life easier.
When communicating with a co-parent keep your eye on the prize. You are doing this for your kids. If your co-parent is in the habit of goading you, don’t take the bait. Develop a deaf ear and remember that you aren’t trying to make the relationship work any longer. You are working toward a new role of co-parent in the best interest of your children.
You can’t control the other parent, but you can control yourself. If things are heating up take a step back, cool off before answering the phone, change the subject and remember to stay out of the dance. Remember, your kids are listening. When parents or co-parents can't get along it puts an incredible amount of stress on the kids.
Being a good co-parent sometimes requires putting on blinders. Don’t let yourself get riled up by every small detail. Some people are expert manipulators and they know just how to push your buttons, but you have a choice in how you respond. Talk to yourself, let it go, drop it and walk away. Tell yourself that this is not about your co-parent. It is about your kids.
It is hard to believe but many separating or divorced parents seem to relish their miscommunication with each other. The renewal of old angry feelings keeps the issue of who has power over whom alive and keeps that familiar connection going. Using negative strategies can make you feel strong and in a one-upmanship position over your co-parent. Sound familiar? If this sounds all too familiar at parentingclassonline.net we can help both partners find new and better ways of communicating. Improving communication with your co-parent is an investment in happy children.
Embrace the idea of good communication and keep these goals in mind when communicating with your co-parent:
1. Make clear arrangements regarding your kids.
2. Model good negotiating and problem solving for your kids.
3. Make life easier.
When communicating with a co-parent keep your eye on the prize. You are doing this for your kids. If your co-parent is in the habit of goading you, don’t take the bait. Develop a deaf ear and remember that you aren’t trying to make the relationship work any longer. You are working toward a new role of co-parent in the best interest of your children.
You can’t control the other parent, but you can control yourself. If things are heating up take a step back, cool off before answering the phone, change the subject and remember to stay out of the dance. Remember, your kids are listening. When parents or co-parents can't get along it puts an incredible amount of stress on the kids.
Being a good co-parent sometimes requires putting on blinders. Don’t let yourself get riled up by every small detail. Some people are expert manipulators and they know just how to push your buttons, but you have a choice in how you respond. Talk to yourself, let it go, drop it and walk away. Tell yourself that this is not about your co-parent. It is about your kids.
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